How to get along with almost anyone
PHILLIPIANS SG WK6
Warm Up: Who takes out the trash in your home? Who cleans the toilet?
Background: How do you get along with almost anyone? The answer is, it’s not easy. It doesn’t matter if they are believers or not. The fact that sometimes our problem is simply that people are different. The church is made up of people from ever race, every background, and ever nation under the sun. It is a diverse group and often times that diversity can lead to conflict that can destroy the unity of a congregation and their witness. Unity is a precious gift of the Spirit. It is to be prized, to be sought, and to be guarded at all costs. When it is lost, it is hard to regain.
Note to leaders: Do not feel that you have to use every question. Pick and choose as the Spirit leads you. Don’t skip over the first question in the discussion from the message! It will generate more insight into what people heard and how the Spirit spoke through the message than any other question.
Text: Phil. 2:1-5
- Reading between the lines, what was wrong with the church in Philippi? What was Paul concerned about?
- When Paul asked the church if being a follower of Jesus Christ has made any difference in their life, what benefits did he point to (v. 1)?
- If Paul asked you the same question, how would you say following Jesus Christ has changed your life? Be specific here.
- What does it mean to “consider someone else better than yourself” (v.3)? How does humility differ from being a doormat?
- How do you balance meeting the needs of others and meeting your own needs?
- When have you been in a fellowship that cared for one another like Paul describes here: Your buddies in the service or at work? Sorority in college? Your sports team?
From the Message: Phil. 2:1-5
- What spoke to you the most from the message and why? What challenged you the most? Don’t rush by this!
- Pastor Steve said, “Most of the church’s problems are not a result of pressure from the outside but pressure from the inside.” How so? What role does the enemy play here?
- Paul believed that the only force powerful enough to motivate us to crucify self (and it is a lifelong process) is the great love of God in Christ. How important is remembering what Christ has done in keeping unity in the church?
- How is fellowship in the Spirit a two-way street? How hard is this to maintain when you are in the middle of a relational conflict and which one does it affect most?
- Pastor Steve said, “Great relationships take work. They don’t just happen.” What is the work required according to verses 2-4?
- Pastor Steve asked, “When’s the last time you specifically did something to avoid an argument or end a conflict?” How would you answer that? Why is this so hard?
- When you are at odds with someone or in the middle of a conflict, how hard is it for you to really “see” the other person? Their point of view? Their needs?
Reflect: Unity does not mean uniformity.All believers do not see things exactly as we do. How should we relate to Christians who don’t see things exactly as we do? Let me give three quick answers to that question.
- We should major on what we have in common.
- We should respect their right to disagree.
- We should hold our convictions in love.
I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.